9 Things You Learn Too Late as a Firstborn Child

Especially if you have African Parents

Photo by Gift Habeshaw on Unsplash

• Your life is not yours.
• You were the experiment, and everyone else is an improvement.
• Only other firstborns will understand you.
• Other firstborns have no clue what you are talking about
• By trying to save your siblings, you’ll create a shaky dynamic that requires you to stop trying to save them… to save them.
• You will have to learn to ask for help. You never had anyone to give you direct experience.
• You were born to lead — running away won’t change a thing.
• You’ll have to learn how to set and enforce boundaries.
• You’ll learn nothing too late once you accept your role and what to do next.

Let’s get into it.

1. Your Life isn’t Yours.

A flashback to all the times your parents and siblings expressed that you existed for them.

That time you were supposed to be a good example. That time when you had to help your younger ones with their assignments or look after them in school.

The way your siblings call you to intercede with your parents on their behalf.