3 Steps To Implement Change When You’ve Finally Decided To — When I think about any potential high-school reunion, a little dread bubble rises up my head. It’s been years since I saw many of my school mates. Some are now parents, further along in their careers. Some have been through life-altering events: losing their spouses, parents. …

Where I’m from, color means little. That made my transition to the United States a chilling one. — This time last year, I was free to travel anywhere I wanted in my native Cameroon, and no one blinked an eye. All I needed was my identity card and the privilege of my first name. Kamga is the most popular name in the Bamileke tribe, historically situated in the…

I’ll get married when…

If you’re like me, you did it for your parents — You weren’t supposed to be selfish. You had to share it all: your toys, your bed, your food, even the hugs you didn’t want to give to that uncle whose face scared you. You did it for so long that you forgot how to say no. You couldn’t say no…

Before you press send, before you send that email. Before you call them out. Before you scream in anger. Before you take the project over…

Finding Strength in Solitude —

The Pain. The Memories. The Regrets and What-ifs. —

Evidence that you’re not good enough? That you don’t deserve a good life, a happy relationship?

She taught me how to make chicken. Fried chicken. — When I separated in 2020, I reached out to her because I wanted to cook more. My former partner did most of the cooking, and now on my own, my repertoire was limited. In Cameroon, you don’t eat chicken every day. Chicken is for rich people. It’s for Christmas. In…