3 Steps To Implement Change When You’ve Finally Decided To — When I think about any potential high-school reunion, a little dread bubble rises up my head. It’s been years since I saw many of my school mates. Some are now parents, further along in their careers. Some have been through life-altering events: losing their spouses, parents. Others are no longer…

Where I’m from, color means little. That made my transition to the United States a chilling one. — This time last year, I was free to travel anywhere I wanted in my native Cameroon, and no one blinked an eye. All I needed was my identity card and the privilege of my first name. Kamga is the most popular name in the Bamileke tribe, historically situated in the…

Especially if you have African Parents — Your life is not yours. You were the experiment, and everyone else is an improvement. Only other firstborns will understand you. Other firstborns have no clue what you are talking about By trying to save your siblings, you’ll create a shaky dynamic that requires you to stop trying to save…

I’ll get married when…

If you’re like me, you did it for your parents — You weren’t supposed to be selfish. You had to share it all: your toys, your bed, your food, even the hugs you didn’t want to give to that uncle whose face scared you. You did it for so long that you forgot how to say no. You couldn’t say no…

Before you press send, before you send that email. Before you call them out. Before you scream in anger. Before you take the project over…

Finding Strength in Solitude —

The Pain. The Memories. The Regrets and What-ifs. —

Evidence that you’re not good enough? That you don’t deserve a good life, a happy relationship?