I once read somewhere that ‘competence begets confidence’.

I believe this is to be true.

In high school, I was notorious for being the most boring individual who ever walked the earth. Whenever I opened my mouth, people would literally start yawning.

I was that guy who made jokes and laughed alone while everyone stared at me, being sorry for my parents.

Studying subjects I didn’t love went a long way to destroy all the confidence I had in myself.

It took me 7 years to find a little back, to decide to study what I wanted. And 5 more to be at the point where I could ask my wife to marry me.

In those years, the only reason why I was able to do spoken word poetry, work as an event manager and become ‘unboring’ was because I got better and better at the things I loved.

When you get good at a skill, there is a lot that changes internally and starts showing up physically.

And like you said, it was one achievement after the other.

Now, I can’t even get embarrassed anymore because I’m always excited to get the truth about something I could have been doing wrong, because I know I’ll get better at it and this directly improves my confidence.

I loved your take Miss Fan, and I’m glad you’re taking us on this trip with you. ❤️

Cameroonian writer and video creator. Featured in LEVEL and P.S. I Love You. I write about building relationships and personal transformation.

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