Learn To Give Up On Your Dreams

Because you have one life left to make whatever you want.

“I want to give up my bearings, slip out of who I am, shed everything, the way a snake discards old skin.”
― Khaled Hosseini

Working on your dreams also requires that you know when to give up, when to let go and when to restart. There’s only so much one person can do under 100 years. Not every single idea you dream of will come true.

Some things will work out the same way you imagined, some would blow your expectations, and others will never see the light of day.

We often remember that one negative comment more than the myriad of good words. I do it all the time. That’s just the way our brain sees things by default, we focus on the danger, the pain.

We need to try — and try — until that one failure is off our list.

It doesn’t have to be off the list. You can’t please everyone: you end up pandering to everyone and being memorable to no one.

As you get better at navigating your world and your dreams, you will get better at knowing your self, and all you are: limits and gifts.

“When you know who matters most to you, giving things up, even yourself, doesn’t really feel like a sacrifice.”
― Kiera Cass

There’s often something that you can do that no one else can. This thing does not have to be a company or the cure to an ailment or a speech to end a war.

It can be being the best parent to a child who would go on to be a human that would save another human one day.

You will never be able to trace every single action, speech, idea, or conversation you bring forth. You cannot see the impact of your life in real time. You cannot change the past.

You are not too small to inspire someone — anyone — by simply doing what you can do to the best of your ability.

It’s okay to give up some things for others. It’s okay not to have everything.

It’s okay not to have balance.

You don’t have to do everything that comes to mind.

When you say no to everything that doesn’t feel right for you at that moment in time, you open up room to say yes to things that allow you to come alive and give your all.

It’s not the same as quitting.

Say ‘no’ more, so that your ‘yes’ will ripple in time.

“But until a person can say deeply and honestly, “I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday,” that person cannot say, “I choose otherwise.”
Stephen R. Covey

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Cameroonian writer and video creator. Featured in LEVEL and P.S. I Love You. I write about building relationships and personal transformation.

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