No Point in Waking Up Early Until You Figure This Out
Early mornings, Eating Frogs, and Other Uncomfortable Things You’re Better Off Doing
Mornings are cold, quiet, and lonely.
When my alarm rings at 4.30 am, I talk myself into not going back to bed. It’s warm. It’s cozy. Non-judgemental. It only wants the best for me at that point in time.
And that’s the problem. What’s best for you now may not be best for you tomorrow. And tomorrow becomes today.
This is how we end up making shitty decisions: we make them today thinking we’ll fix them before tomorrow. Then tomorrow comes. We’re shocked nothing’s changed.
Guess what? Today was tomorrow. Cycle. Forever.
When I think of how much my morning sucks, I remember that every time something has sucked and I avoided it, I always regretted it.
I can’t overemphasize the truth in what Mr. Clear says:
“You don’t fall to the level of your goals, you rise to the level of your systems” — James Clear
Not doing what I really wanted in college was easy. I was following the right path, doing what my parents wanted. It felt good to be seen as a good child. It sucks to have a frank conversation about what you want to do with your life when the people paying for your life want to do something else.
So, what do you do?
You cave in. Bury your head and heart. A plastic face. Until you can’t recognize what’s really funny anymore — the joke or that it’s not really a joke.
It’s your life.
I’ve read The Miracle Morning. It sucks to have a routine. But it works.
By 7 am, I have this bubbling sense of control simply because I did a few things: read, wrote, visualized (okay, this one still feels weird but not as much), pray, exercised, and drank water.
No, not in that order.
The water part is probably the most outstanding aspect of my morning.
Turning 30, for some reason, made me think of turning 40 and all the things I’ll regret. Taking care of my health now became this sucky thought that I couldn’t shake away.
Each time I drink water, a vote happens in my parliament of self-worth.
“All for feeding this body with what it needs?”
I’ve failed at following through with so many projects. Recorded podcasts I haven’t published. Drafts uncompleted.
As I write this, there are stacks of books on the floor that I need to make time to pack up ( Edit: I packed them). This used to make me feel like I was disappointing someone.
What I didn’t realize was: if only I kept my promises to myself, not only will the feeling go away, but I’ll become the type of person who makes time to do the things that matter.
Waking up in the morning isn’t something I enjoy.
Honestly, I don’t know if I’ll make it a habit. Then again, I know that this type of thinking doesn’t help. I’ll need to change that. Note to self.
But it’s 6 am and so far, I’ve been able to drink water, pour my angry thoughts in a journal, plan my day, and write this.
Even if I did nothing today, no one can take this pride I feel in myself.
The things that suck are usually the most important to do. Make small bets on yourself. Start small. Don’t try to eat the elephant whole.
If it’s important to you, you’ll find a way to do it.
Tomorrow doesn’t exist. Yesterday is gone. Do something that sucks today, and every day. That’s how you’ll die with pride for the life you lived.
I believe in you.
“If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And If it’s your job to eat two frogs, it’s best to eat the biggest one first” — Mark Twain