However, because you took the time to write a comment, I feel it’s only human for me to respect your time and provide a response.
Q1 “Why did you leave your home country, where you say you were so very comfortable?”
I moved to the US because my wife was here. She was training to become a doctor. She’s now a family resident serving her American community. She was also born in Cameroon. Because of the way the American loan system works, her return to Cameroon wasn’t exactly an option.
So, here’s my reason:
Q2: “How do you think white people feel in Africa?”
Incredibly privileged. Yet, also subject to prejudices like the assumption that their color means money bags in droves. Sara has provided an incredibly authentic response to this that deserves praise. I’ll add the following.
My father’s first business had aspects that required that we house tourists and students — usually from France or Belgium. Whenever my siblings and I would walk around with our new friends, we were seen as high-status. Just for being in the company of foreigners.
So, how do white people feel in Africa?
I have no idea.
My guess is they feel far from home. Maybe they miss their family. Maybe they’re pissed off that everyone assumes they’re rich, or that it’s okay to call them “Whiteman” or “Onyinbo” or “Bushfaller”.
Essentially, I don’t know. Ask a white person. Or maybe you can go to “Africa” yourself.
How about the 54 countries for a start?
S1: “Seriously, you are internalizing things and creating your own hurt. If the content of your character is strong and decent, there are no limits to what you can achieve in America, color immaterial. There are, literally, millions of people of color who are doing just fine”.
Yes, we are our own worst enemies. I agree with you.
The content of my character is a powerful variable. Albeit, a variable among many. There is weight in what you say, but not enough to downplay the challenge it poses.
“Doing just fine” is relative. I didn’t say I wasn’t doing just fine. Actually, I am doing pretty fine. I have a job, a roof over my head.
Heck, I even have a dog.
Sharing my experience around moving to a country and dealing with new feelings are not mutually exclusive from the benefits of it all.
S2: By the way, if America is so terrible, you can always move back home or somewhere else you think your color may not be a hindrance.
Again, I didn’t say America was “so terrible”.
Highspeed internet, a car, a house, food on my table, a job that pays, a computer — even a video game console I can afford to not play.
There are many cool things about America.
Just like there are many cool things about being a billionaire. But does that take away their humanity? Can money buy a life? Or delete a migraine? Or love?
And what would you define as home? For me, it’s wherever my family is.
This world is my home. I left home, and came home.
Color may not be a hindrance to you for mildly obvious reasons. But refusing to acknowledge that it poses an issue as a construct in society is tantamount to telling an average person that if he/she really, really believes it, he/she can become a chess master despite the limitations of their intelligence.
That is not even a good example. But it’ll do for now. If you read Beautyis Universal you’ll have more.
S3: Personally, I believe the fact that you can write about this subject openly without threat of incarceration or physical attack is the primary reason you DON’T move back home, but I’m just guessing…
Well, you’re wrong. And you were guessing. I said earlier why I was here.
PS: Thanks for reading. You helped me think and crystalize my views on why clear thinking and expression may be powerful tools in redefining identities and perspectives around inflammable subjects like race.