To Fight Those You Love
“Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.”
— Martin Luther King, Jr.
It takes two to fight.
Your decision to not fight is a kind of fight.
Also, there will always be fights. You might have been together for years, but it’s during hardship and conflict that you truly know people.
It’s when my parents had no money that they usually said the things I’m still dealing with till today.
I don’t know if anyone really likes to fight. I think we get carried away with emotions and instead of responding, we react.
And after we’ve calmed down, we don’t have the humility to ask for forgiveness and learn from what happened.
Or rather, we’re too proud to stoop low and ask for forgiveness.
Sometimes, even when we find this humility, the person before us can start treating it as a weakness so, they now start using this against us.
When this dynamic of fighting, using, pride continues, it’s easier to carve out a specific way to react which is usually just ignoring the person we said we’d love to death.
Or the last resort is to walk away.
From my own little experience, I can tell you that you can have fair fights.
That you can learn how to respond.
That you can learn how to ask for forgiveness, and also forgive.
All these things can be and should be learned if you want to have a thriving lifelong partnership with another equally flawed human that you love.
“I think we all have empathy. We may not have enough courage to display it.” — Maya Angelou
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