We’re All Selfish
When all’s good, who needs self-improvement? Who needs positive self-talk when laughing their hearts out and hugging loved ones?
Life is not only about the good.
Why do we forget so easily when this same life dishes the bad?
1.
We all show up online to share our thoughts. We all want someone to read them — even if we say we don’t. We do.
We give love to our spouses, our children, our family, our friends because they give us love back.
Now, you might say that’s not you. You might say you’re not that selfish.
Would you still do it if you didn’t get the love back?
Would you still write if no one read?
Would you build that business and keep losing money if it served no one in the world?
Who, really, is that selfless?
2.
Change happens on the surface and in the deep. The results may blindside us but part of us knows it was always coming — the relationship was going to end. You would get fired. He’d quit.
We may flail with our measly attempt at denial, or breakdown in tears for the truth we’d foreseen but hoped to be wrong.
Change is always effecting itself. Like the earth, it will move whether I’m happy or not.
Change is life’s selfish quest to self-correct and auto-improve.
Without change, there is no big-bang.
Without change, there is no life.
Even God had to rest a day.
3.
When you’ve become someone you cannot recognize, you can either allow the river of time to nurse you back gently, or dive in and swim.
The current will move nonetheless. Eventually, you’ll be thrown into the sea of souls, once youth-filled and tender.
Change is the least selfish attempt at life. To willingly change is to accept nature and move in accordance.
We can fight and explain away our desire for stagnancy. We can fool some of the people, some of the time with why we’re right.
We can write articles online spewing our perspectives on change, selfishness and how wise we are.
But deep below, in the quiet of the lonely soul, we know what’s staring back.
We know who we are — who we refuse to be — who we must be.
We’re all selfish.
That is why we have to give ourselves to the world.
